Post by leunas on Jan 29, 2007 15:36:27 GMT -5
tekanji sent me the link to Geek Dating Help on the blog In One Ear…. Thom, the blog’s writer, posted a call for a girlfriend that his fictional friend Frank wrote. I was really disturbed before Thom revealed the list was a parody because like he says, “your local comic shop is chock full of guys just like Frank!” I even bought the fetishizing of Asians and underage women (I don’t know if Rachel Bilson was underage back then, but her character Summer on The OC was when she dressed up as Wonder Woman).
Isn’t it sad that it’s so believable a guy would ask for a woman who gamed but wasn’t better at it than him, a woman who was smart, but not smarter than him, who worked out to look good for him, but didn’t expect the same from him?
Thom’s post was inspired by Ami Angelwing’s I’m tired of hearing that I don’t exist!. Her points are awesome. For example:
Geeky women are invisible to the general crowd of heterosexual geek men–either because we don’t fit the standard that is required to register on mens’ radars (hot, like the right games and comics and movies, sexually attracted to men), or we aren’t out about our hobbies. The majority of my friends are women and enjoy playing video games or working in Photoshop or watching Firefly, we just don’t count. Either we don’t fit that standard of attractive and polite and unconditionally doting, or we don’t advertise what we’re into. And honestly, if we’re going to be treated like a guy’s sexmeat, why would we want to be that way? Sure, if we get it right, we’ll get praised, but is that enough for self esteem?
www.lake-desire.com/newgameplus/index.php/archives/205
Then there is the looks thing. Totally not important, maybe something like Jessica Alba (circa Dark Angel) or maybe Scarlet Johannson. Or that girl from the OC…Rachel something or other. She looked hot dressed as Wonder Woman. I am totally open to all races, especially hot Asian girls. She should take care of herself some, you know, go to the gym and stuff, but not force me to tag along.
Isn’t it sad that it’s so believable a guy would ask for a woman who gamed but wasn’t better at it than him, a woman who was smart, but not smarter than him, who worked out to look good for him, but didn’t expect the same from him?
Thom’s post was inspired by Ami Angelwing’s I’m tired of hearing that I don’t exist!. Her points are awesome. For example:
I also rly dislike that most gamer/geek/whatever girls are dismissed cuz they’re not supermodels. Like, I guess I’m lucky cuz I’m considered attractive? (And there’s that whole Asian thing, but that’s a rant for another day) But it’s so annoying when guys keep complaining to me about the lack of gamer girls and how rare I am. HELLO!!! I know LOTS. LOTS!!! And it’s funny that guys who spend most of their time behind a computer and not at a gym, want gamer girls to look like they spend most of their time at a gym and not at the computer. >
Geeky women are invisible to the general crowd of heterosexual geek men–either because we don’t fit the standard that is required to register on mens’ radars (hot, like the right games and comics and movies, sexually attracted to men), or we aren’t out about our hobbies. The majority of my friends are women and enjoy playing video games or working in Photoshop or watching Firefly, we just don’t count. Either we don’t fit that standard of attractive and polite and unconditionally doting, or we don’t advertise what we’re into. And honestly, if we’re going to be treated like a guy’s sexmeat, why would we want to be that way? Sure, if we get it right, we’ll get praised, but is that enough for self esteem?
www.lake-desire.com/newgameplus/index.php/archives/205